START SHIFTING YOUR RELATIONSHIPS WITH YOUR FAMILY AND GET YOUR HOLIDAY SCHEDULE SORTED OUT IN JUST ONE WEEK!
Reset Expectations with your Family and Make Decisions that Feel Great this Holiday Season*
*Without needing to run off to Bali for the holidays, piss your favorite Aunt off, or burn your family relationships to the ground. Let’s start getting your needy family members under control!
Ever said “yes” to a holiday dinner with people you really don’t want to be around … or wasted hours trying to craft the perfect response to a last-minute request from that Uncle who’s always asking YOU to pick something up … or dropped everything to pick up the phone for that persistent cousin who wants to gossip about family holiday drama even when you were doing something WAY more important? Of course you have – and you’re not alone. Join us, put what you learn into play, and you’ll never do any of that bullsh!t again. 💥
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TL;dr
- Thursday through Saturday, November 7-9, 2024 – 3 LIVE classes that teach you three main skillsets that will change your relationship with your family this holiday season (Time TBA – late afternoon/early evening)
- Complete exercises in-session, planning what you’ll say and to whom, so you can enjoy your holiday season!
- Spend a few days on your own, implementing your plan, and then meet up with us again on Wednesday November 13, 2024 for a LIVE wrap-up Gentle Accountability™ session
- Calls are 90(ish) minutes and are recorded – we meet via Zoom
- $222 gets you all the live calls, plus access to the replays through the end of the month so you can refresh and implement!
Join the Waitlist to get first dibs next time we do the Boundaries Workshop (it’ll be a different theme, just for you!)
Holidays don’t have to be stressful. They’re your holidays, too!
Before we dig in, let me just say that you already hold the secret to creating a Joyful and Thriving™ relationship with your family. And if you don’t believe me and think there’s no way that’s going to happen because you’ve spent years trying to make everyone happy and never could … then, you’ve been burned. God knows I’ve been burned, too. I spent so many years and energy and money and brainpower trying to make the best plans possible so that everyone in the family is happy with the holiday season, but that never worked. Because *I* wasn’t happy with the holiday season.
It always seems like the more we try to put up boundaries around our time and energy over the holidays, the more family presses harder to get us to commit to spending more time with them. With enough cajoling from the elders in the family, eventually, it’s easier to cave in. But when you cave, you lose out on YOUR holidays, too. And that’s not fair.
And while we’re on it, here’s another “secret” – most of my clients have spent years in therapy dealing with childhood trauma. They learned to people-please in their family of origin, being told they should always give to others (which leaves nothing for them in return). Authority figures made it seem like they HAD to make themselves small so they didn’t take up too much space or be “too much” or “cause trouble” at holiday gatherings. And even though I know that you know you’re giving your all and want everyone to have a good holiday season (can’t they SEE how much you’re trying?!), when you get fed up, it’s STILL hard to draw boundaries with family, even when you feel like you should know how to do all this *waves hands around* by now.
Processing emotions in therapy around the mental and emotional load of family holiday expectations is a great start, but emotional processing doesn’t always translate into the peaceful holidays we want. You have to actually DO something with the information you learn in therapy. Whether it’s who you’re seeing and when, or gift-giving (yay or nay?), or anything in between, we’re going to help you do something with it TOGETHER.
You know that little kid voice inside that whispers, “You‘re an adult for goodness sakes! Just say what you want: I want my holidays back!“
I know that little voice, too. I also know I shoved that little voice down for decades … always thinking about everyone else first and putting aside what I needed at the behest of my family, taking care of them before I did what was right for me.
And where did that land me? Burned out. Broke. Broken.
The lesson I had to learn (the real key) is to set expectations with your family before it’s time to make the decision about the holidays – and then enforcing those expectations with boundaries. Without boundaries, your resentment, overwhelm, and exhaustion will increase – and as a result, your joy, fulfillment, and your life and sleep will suffer. This isn’t to scare you. This is REALITY. I want you to enjoy your holidays. You worked hard for them!
And let’s be real – I’m sure you’ve had “problem” family for a LONG time and you’re probably trying to figure out how to retrain your family in what they can expect from you and how to communicate with you. This workshop will help you retrain them, with some Gentle Accountability™ to make it happen!
Are you willing to make a few small, significant changes to how you show up with your family and in how you communicate?
You don’t have to stress about the holidays, and then stay stressed throughout the holidays! You can change how you’ve been dealing with the holidays. And I’m going to show you exactly how to do it for yourself.
I was burned out, broken, and exhausted, working 100-120 hour weeks and then spending the rest of my time bowing to what my family expected of me, even when it meant me spending more time in the car on my holidays rather than seeing the people I really cared about. I decided this wasn’t working for me and started redirecting, refreshing, and recharging my energy.
I took control back over my time, talents, and treasure, and began enjoying all of my holidays – from Mardi Gras to New Year’s. And the best part? I did it all by mastering the three skillsets that are in everyone’s wheelhouse, including yours, and I’m going to cover these in our workshop – I invite you to join us.
If you’re tired of feeling burned out from the holidays, spending all your time (and money) curating everyone else’s experiences and ignoring the way YOU want to spend your holidays, I want to show you how to put boundaries into place that ensure you ENJOY your holidays again.
If you’re dreading the holiday season because you always feel like you need a holiday from your holiday, I want to teach you the strategies and exact words to set boundaries that stick and to effectively manage holiday expectations without agonizing over how to do it without pissing your entire family off.
Let’s be real: needy family members who smother you with “shoulds” at the holidays are not good for your mental and emotional health. You can change the way you handle them and you can start this year!
You could continue spiraling into burnout, struggle with extreme stress, and feel out of balance about the holidays and getting what you need, too, or …
- You can experience clear boundaries that stick and feel less pressure, less stress, and less anxiety, while also being clear about the expectations family has of you, being confident about the decisions you make in how you interact with them, and enjoying the time you spend together!
You could continue to limit your impact at home, feel unproductive and unappreciated for all your amazing skills and curation of their holiday experiences that took tons of mental and emotional load to create, or …
- You could get clear on your values, start to reverse and heal burnout for all that unpaid labor, experience improved relationships with your family, maintain that holiday balance, and accept the truth of who you are and what you really want out of your relationships with family for the long-term!
You could continue to keep a negative outlook of what your family is like right now, and keep feeling annoyed, bitter, angry, frustrated, and disappointed that what you got in a family wasn’t what you thought it would be, or …
- You can let go of the negative stories you’re telling yourself about why you can’t have what you want with the holidays for good. You can show up better rested, well-fed, and feel good in your body, with a bright shining ability to be present for your family and yourself for the entire holiday season!
You could continue to sacrifice your health and wellness for your family’s happiness, feeling stuck, paralyzed, unsure of your next steps, strangled and suppressed, allowing perfectionism and a lack of self-worth to control your interactions with family and ultimately, your holidays, or …
- You could prioritize your well-being and self-care, get clarity about your needs with family members, and understand more clearly what a fulfilling holiday season looks like to you, creating an identity for yourself beyond your family role you’ve always played for the holidays!
Here’s a little tough and love:
At the end of the day, YOU decide how you want your family to interact with you, and YOU decide how you spend your holidays.
Did you know it’s scientifically-proven that setting boundaries leads to better sleep, more time for yourself, happier homes, and yes, even nicer, more reasonable relationships?
I used to do everything for everyone – all the things I thought I “should” do (should is an a**hole, by the way). I spent my entire life at the service of others, never caring for myself (like, AT ALL). I know what it’s like to struggle with family roles, and I know what it’s like to master the skills needed to become a complete badass, too!
This is why I’ve decided to integrate three main skillsets into this one workshop. I wanted to cover them all because just like my clients, I used to struggle with them. Over the last twenty years, I’ve become a pro at these, and I want you too, as well:
- Setting Boundaries that STICK,
- Resetting Expectations with EVERYONE around you, and
- Making Aligned Decisions that feel GREAT!
The truth is that the solution’s not JUST about boundaries – it’s the expectations that need to be reset underneath it all. All of that starts with making good decisions. You can’t have one without the other. Each piece relies on the other like a jigsaw puzzle.
I invite you to give yourself one week.
One week of revolutionary, radical, and unconventional conversations about what it actually takes to unlearn the bad habits society and parents taught us about how to be a “good” family member.
Stop these bad habits in their tracks …
- Stop getting stuck, trying to be 100% certain about family and holiday decisions.
- Stop trying to convince family members who don’t value you that you do ACTUALLY know the best way to handle the holiday season planning and if they would JUST listen, they’d understand.
- Stop trying to get family to notice your hard work staying up late and waking up early, constantly overthinking how to maximize their holiday experience.
- Stop being so focused on approval and acceptance and love and advice from the authority figures in your family, that you forget who you are underneath it all.
- Stop believing you have to prove to your family that you belong there and your needs matter, too.
- Stop holding onto familial relationships that aren’t good for you anymore, even though you think you have to – please let them go be toxic somewhere else.
- Stop avoiding confrontation and truth with family by making yourself smaller, silencing yourself, and keeping that snark under wraps lest it piss someone off.
- Stop being in such a hurry to get things done for family members that you wear yourself out and can’t enjoy the time you actually DO have off.
- Stop making excuses for the bullsh!t going on with family that has nothing to do with you.
What learning with us feels like:
“Definitely trust Sheila and make this decision to invest in yourself. I know the income commitment can be scary and might seem intimidating. But you will walk away with new insights about others, new insights about yourself, more clarity and confidence in your purpose, and the framework to get you serving your purpose!” – Jessica
“When you get sick and tired of being sick and tired, Sheila can be your catalyst for change. I remain impressed by her knowledge and experience yet more so by her ability to translate them into simple, practical steps I can take. So thankful to have her join me as a sounding board & advisor/coach as I navigate to and through the next chapters of my life!!” – H.C.
“I now recognize that we are raised in a society where it comes naturally to compromise our boundaries – and that it is safe to have them.” – Laura
“Sheila’s guidance and intuitive style has really created a space for me to work out what I needed to do to move forward confidently in my desire to create my dreams.” – Dina
Hi! I’m Sheila and I’m
Joyful and Thriving™
I’m a coach, educator and attorney for bored, broke, broken, and burned-out professionals who are sick of sacrificing their lives for obligations – paid and unpaid – that make them miserable. Unpaid labor is still labor.
You should know that my own story began with my own burnout. I’m not going to judge you – I’m not that kinda girl. My journey was painful, but it helped me realize something that changed EVERYTHING for me: Life is too short to keep living a life that’s not your own. To be doing the things we think we should be doing. For reasons that aren’t the right reasons. Especially with and for people who don’t deserve our time, talent or energy, or if they do, who take advantage of it every chance they get.
This is why I’ve made it my mission to help professionals just like you to create a life that doesn’t do the bare minimum of keeping you fed and a roof over your head – but instead, one that fills up your soul and allows you to experience the freedom and flexibility you deserve to have in your life in the first place!
Because here’s the thing: I NEVER want you to wonder again what “could’ve, should’ve or would’ve happened” if you just had the courage to start curating the relationships in your life the way you know you deserve – JOYFUL and THRIVING!
I live on two continents, rest and nap whenever and wherever I want to, have enough in my bank account, and have the pleasure of loving and spending my time with the most aligned people, projects, and pay of my life. I also have cut out every single toxic relationship in my life – and while that was hard, you know what’s easy? HOLIDAYS.
Skip the holiday heartache, let’s go straight to the heart of the holidays you want!
Ready to stop avoiding the difficult holiday conversations? Join us!
Give yourself one week. ONE week. Make change happen. You CAN reclaim your holiday time and energy!
Here are the Deets!
Together, I’ll walk you through the three main skillsets that will immediately help you start creating your own Joyful and Thriving™ relationships with your family this holiday season!
The LIVE workshop runs for a week, with three core teaching sessions with Q&A, followed by several days of supported implementation and a live wrap-up Gentle Accountability™ session. Calls are between 90-120 minutes and all sessions are conducted virtually via Zoom, allowing you to participate from the comfort of your space. We also record sessions, so if you miss one, you can catch up at your convenience, and replays are available until the last day of the month.
Day 1: Boundaries – Thursday November 7, 2024 @ Time TBA
– What they are and what they’re NOT
– The reasons people struggle with sticking to them
– How to set them starting today
– How to stick to them
– Application / Exercise + Implementation Mini-Plan
Day 2: Expectations – Friday November 8, 2024 @ Time TBA
– What they are and what they’re NOT
– The three kinds of people that need expectations managed
– The reasons people struggle with managing them
– How to reset them starting today
– Application / Exercise + Implementation Mini-Plan
Day 3: Decisions – Saturday November 9, 2024 @ Time TBA
– Are you actually procrastinating or are you just delaying?
– The real priority isn’t the one you think it is
– Getting clarity around who you are, what you want, what you don’t want, and why
– Gaining confidence around your decisions (yes, you can trust yourself)
– Feeling courageous and taking the leap
– Application / Exercise + Implementation Mini-Plan
Days 4-6: Gentle Accountability™ Days — Implementation of your Plan!
Day 7: Celebrating WINS on your Boundaries, Expectations, and Decisions 🥳
Wednesday November 13, 2024 @ Time TBA
Anticipated Bonus: “Ask Sheila Anything” Human Design Alignment Session (TBA)
STILL ON THE FENCE?
Here are some common questions:
How will this workshop help me address burnout, decision-making, or boundary-setting?
This workshop is designed specifically for regulated professionals who are tired of feeling burned out and overwhelmed. We dive deep into practical strategies for setting and maintaining boundaries, managing expectations, and making aligned decisions. By the end of the week, you’ll have a personalized action plan to take back control of your life.
Do you have sliding scale options? How much does it cost?
Great question. The short answer is yes and it depends. The longer answer is that I’ve set up pricing to cover a range of options for the most accessibility, and I ask that you choose your option that best fits your personal financial situation. If you can pay in full, please do. If you need a payment plan, choose the one that works best for you. The total prices for the payment plans are SLIGHTLY higher than paying in full. That’s not to penalize if you choose the payment plan; it’s just enough to cover the extra processing fees. You have three options – Pay In Full at $222, Pay 50/50 at $115/week two times ($230), or Pay $58.75/biweekly four times ($235). Payments will automatically charge your card according to your choice. See below for info about refunds.
How will this experience contribute to my growth or help me in my life?
Beyond just helping you manage stress and avoid burnout, this workshop equips you with tools to enhance your relationships and decision-making skills. You’ll learn how to communicate your needs effectively, set realistic expectations, and make confident choices—all crucial skills for advancing in your life and taking big leaps.
Is the content relevant to both my personal and professional life?
Absolutely. The skills and insights you’ll gain are designed to be universally applicable, whether you’re setting boundaries at work, managing expectations with family, or making personal life decisions. It’s about creating a holistic approach to living a joyful and thriving life, both professionally and personally.
Are there continuing education credits or certifications available?
While this workshop does not offer traditional continuing education credits, the practical skills and strategies you’ll learn are invaluable for your professional and personal growth. It’s a deep dive into personal development that often goes beyond what standard CE courses offer, however, I do CEs regularly and include some of what we’re discussing here inside of those CEs. Reach out if you want to chat about turning this Workshop into a CE for your organization/firm.
How is the workshop structured, and is it convenient for my schedule?
The workshop runs for a week, with three core sessions followed by three days of implementation and a wrap-up session. All sessions are conducted virtually via Zoom, allowing you to participate from the comfort of your home or office. We also record sessions, so if you miss one, you can catch up at your convenience. The recordings are available until the last day of that month.
Is the investment worth the benefits?
This workshop is an investment in yourself and your future. The insights and tools you’ll gain are transformative and can lead to significant improvements in your life balance, family relationships, and overall well-being. It’s about taking actionable steps towards living a life that truly aligns with your values and desires.
Is Sheila actually credible? What makes this workshop unique?
As an attorney, social worker, coach, and consultant, I have personally navigated the challenges of burnout and overwork this workshop offers a solution to, and I have guided thousands of others, too, so it’s a blend of practical experience and professional expertise. My unique approach, combining real-life insights with actionable strategies, sets this workshop apart from more generic offerings you might see on the internet. You’re actually going to IMPLEMENT the things you learn – not just leave all of this in a PDF / Course graveyard, because you’ll have Gentle Accountability™ with me and our group of other Badass Boundary-Setters.
Will this workshop help improve my work-life balance and well-being?
Yes, the core focus of this workshop is to help you create a life that balances your personal responsibilities with your professional needs and desires. We provide actionable steps to help you establish boundaries, set clear expectations, and make decisions that align with your goals, ultimately leading to a more balanced and fulfilling life.
What support and resources will be available during and after the workshop?
During the workshop, you’ll have access to live sessions, interactive exercises, and a supportive community of like-minded professionals. Post-workshop, you can continue the conversation and get support through our private Circle community, where you can ask questions, share wins, and stay connected. Additionally, you can always schedule time one-on-one with Sheila here.
Is there a money-back guarantee or satisfaction guarantee?
I believe in the value of this workshop and are confident you’ll find it transformative. However, if you attend the sessions, do all the homework, implement your plan, and still genuinely feel you haven’t gained any value, you can reach out. Review our Policies about how to request assistance. Payments & payment plans are contractually binding for the full amount of the Workshop/Course.