Sheila M. Wilkinson | New Orleans | Brussels
Coaching, Legal Services and Continuing Education for Service-Based Professionals
Elsa in “Frozen” made it sound so simple to just let it go.
But, it’s not always easy. In fact, it’s one of the biggest challenges I see among my clients and students – letting go of things – regardless of whether they can or can’t control them – because they haven’t granted themselves permission to do so …
“Ugh, I should totally know this.”
We’ve all thought or said this phrase at some time or another, whether it was at the start of a new job, career transition, or launching a new business.
We’ve all had those moments of self-doubt, kicking ourselves for not knowing the answer. But should you, really?
The truth is, you don’t know what you don’t know. That’s why experts exist – to help us do the things that they’re really good at doing…
The key to success is to get out of your head. Making decisions based on what you think is expected of you, is never the right move.
You’ll always find yourself in frustrating situations that feel helpless, hopeless, and terrible.
But here’s the best part about expectations that we THINK others have of us …
We often project what we think people want from us.
For instance, how often do you find yourself working 60, 70, 80+ hours a week? (You’re not alone – I used to work 100-120 hour weeks!)
Or are you the type who feels like you have to get your inbox down to zero unread messages every single day?
Maybe you just feel like you have to respond to each and every email immediately, instead of giving yourself a 24- to 48-hour window to respond, even if it’s during the weekend.
But why? Did the client say that this was an expectation they have of you? Because the only thing that truly is expected – reasonably and realistically – is what is EXPLICITLY said is an expectation of us …
No matter where you are in your career or business, we’ve all experienced that nightmare client.
You know, the one who always shows up late to the meeting…
Or the one who never speaks up and tells you how they honestly feel about that mock-up…
Even worse, the client who wants a revision you don’t want to make, yet they believe the client is always right. (By the way, this is not true – they are not always right)
Or maybe it’s something else …
How much should I be paid? How do I get new clients? What should I do next in life?
So many of us have these types of questions when it comes to starting a business or launching a new career.
However, in all my years of experience – legal, coaching, teaching, community outreach and development – the biggest trouble area to overcome before you start a business is centered around …
What’s one area professionals, creatives, and service providers most often overlook when it comes to a successful career?
Answer: their health, wellness, and interconnectedness.
We often overlook it because of our own …
You have more control over your life and career than you think you do.
So many of us are taught at an early age not to color outside of the lines, to play it safe, to follow the rules in order to be successful.
But what if you didn’t? What if you didn’t buy into all the promises that society says you’ll receive when you play by their rules? Instead, what if you were in control?
These are the kinds of questions I want you to explore and the reason why …
Just like a Mission, a Vision Statement is not just a lofty bunch of words that make people feel good about you. Your Vision Statement is a direct result of your Mission, and more than that, a Vision Statement is about your driving force. Today’s episode takes you one step closer to clarity, and I will walk you through a mini-exercise at the end for how you can start to implement this stuff today!
… And this is where your mission comes in. Your mission is about your WHY. Not your who, not your what, your why must permeate everything you do in your personal life, professional business, career, everything. And your mission is your guide to every single decision you make going forward …