Sheila M. Wilkinson | New Orleans | Brussels
Coaching, Legal Services and Continuing Education for Service-Based Professionals
The key to success is to get out of your head. Making decisions based on what you think is expected of you, is never the right move.
You’ll always find yourself in frustrating situations that feel helpless, hopeless, and terrible.
But here’s the best part about expectations that we THINK others have of us …
We often project what we think people want from us.
For instance, how often do you find yourself working 60, 70, 80+ hours a week? (You’re not alone – I used to work 100-120 hour weeks!)
Or are you the type who feels like you have to get your inbox down to zero unread messages every single day?
Maybe you just feel like you have to respond to each and every email immediately, instead of giving yourself a 24- to 48-hour window to respond, even if it’s during the weekend.
But why? Did the client say that this was an expectation they have of you? Because the only thing that truly is expected – reasonably and realistically – is what is EXPLICITLY said is an expectation of us …
No matter where you are in your career or business, we’ve all experienced that nightmare client.
You know, the one who always shows up late to the meeting…
Or the one who never speaks up and tells you how they honestly feel about that mock-up…
Even worse, the client who wants a revision you don’t want to make, yet they believe the client is always right. (By the way, this is not true – they are not always right)
Or maybe it’s something else …
How much should I be paid? How do I get new clients? What should I do next in life?
So many of us have these types of questions when it comes to starting a business or launching a new career.
However, in all my years of experience – legal, coaching, teaching, community outreach and development – the biggest trouble area to overcome before you start a business is centered around …
It’s easy to look at someone else and think they’ve got it all together. Or think they know what they’re doing. Or think they know how to be better or more of a badass than we are. But let me let you in on a little secret …
One of my favorite statements to prove wrong is that there aren’t enough hours in the day. I’m not really sure what that means in the grand scheme of things. We all get 168 hours in a week. That’s 24 hours a day. Yet, still, people feel overwhelmed. Tired. Out of control. On the verge of a breakdown. Angry. Sad. Defeated. I get it, so let me tell you how I got over it …
You’ve probably already guessed them. It’s quite simple, really. The concept of appreciation is a common one, rooted in the values of building interpersonal relationships, of increasing personal and professional satisfaction and of growing a community. When we appreciate something, and I mean truly and intentionally appreciate something, that feeling can transcend most anything. Let’s look at why this is …
Hello, January. It’s that time of year when everyone makes New Year’s resolutions and swears they’ll keep them. Most resolutions include better time management, more time for self, more time with family, more gym time, more vacations and less stress. Here’s why you’re throwing that New Year’s Resolution out with the candy wrappers …